how to benefit from counselling

commend yourself for taking this step

Our society has this silly idea that we should be able to solve all our own problems. So it takes courage to ask for help. You can feel great about taking this step toward a better life.

​be prepared to reflect on your life experiences

​We’ll probably talk about what you’ve been through as well as what has and hasn’t worked for you in the past. This takes some introspection and reflection.

accept responsibility for changing

​There’s an old joke that asks, How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb? The answer is: Just one, but the light bulb has to really want to change. There’s truth to this. I offer my observations and suggestions, but at the end of the day, it’s your job to put them into practice and see what happens. You are the main character in your story of change.

​be open to trying new things

​It may be important for you to shift away from past perspectives and strategies in order to bring about the changes you’re seeking.

​be patient

We’d all love a magic pill to make the bad thoughts and tough feelings go away, but there’s no such thing (that’s healthy, anyway). Change can happen more slowly than we’d like. Remember that it takes time to put new skills and perspectives into practice.

​know that a good therapist is open to hearing feedback, positive or negative

​If something isn’t working for you or is making you feel uncomfortable, please speak up. I want to know so I can adjust what we’re doing until it feels right.

For more, check out this Psychology Today article.